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Stage 1 Class:
  Thursday 6p.m.
  Monday 6p.m.
Stage 2/3 Class:
  Tuesdays 6:30p.m.
  A Seminar for Women

David Morton
Director & Facilitator


Mean mugging.
The Evil Eye.
The Big Stink.
The Silent Treatment.

They're all forms of emotional violence that hurt you and the ones you love.

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Now Viewing: Relationship Perspective

Remembering To Pause
     We have all had the experience of reacting in a way that was less than ideal upon hearing bad news, or being unfairly criticized, or being told something we did not want to hear. This makes sense because when our emotions are triggered, they tend to take center stage, inhibiting our ability to pause before we speak.

Awakening to Change 
     Life is a journey comprised of many steps on our personal path that takes us down a winding road of constant evolution. And each day, we are provided with a myriad of opportunities that can allow us to transform into our next best selves. One moment we are presented with an opportunity to react differently when yet another someone in our life rubs us the wrong way; on another day we may find ourselves wanting to walk away from a particular circumstance but are not sure if we can.

Boundaries in My Life - Space In Togetherness 
     As relationships evolve, lives gradually become entwined. We tend to have a great deal in common with the people who attract us, and our regard for them compels us to trust their judgment. While our lives may seem to run together so smoothly that the line dividing them cannot be seen, we remain separate beings. To disregard these barriers is to sacrifice independence.

Changing The Way We Relate 
     A relationship, in the truest sense of the word, means relating to another. Usually when we say that we relate to someone, it is because we’ve found common ground. But part of relating is finding ways to make ideas that seem different come together. So often when we choose relationships, we try to fit another person into our predetermined ideal. When they don’t fit perfectly, we may try to make them over, creating our own vision from the raw material they’ve brought.

The Journey Of Commitment 
     Loving and committing to another person is a spiritual process whether that means a wedding or any other type of commitment ceremony. So often when we enter into a relationship we allow our emotions to lead us forward without thinking more deeply about what true commitment involves. If we can understand that sharing our lives with another person is not just based on love, but also on the hard work of being able to compromise and enter into a dialogue with them, then we are much more likely to find the key to having a successful relationship with our partners.

Trust In Relationships
     Our relationships can only thrive if we are willing to trust that the people we care about will be there for us when we need them. Insecurity caused by the doubt we feel when reflecting upon the emotional connection we share with our relatives and friends can have a weakening impact on the potency of those interpersonal bonds. When we are confident that our relationships are stable, we can concentrate on making our loved ones feel appreciated and esteemed.

Don’t Avoid the Void
     When we  are in the void, our first impulse is to revert to old habits because they feel comfortable.  Our goal is to hang in there until the change is complete.  Knowing that TRANSITIONS ARE PART OF THE CHANGE  process helps us muster the courage to put up with the discomfort, the uneasiness, the void. “When we feel stuck, going no where—even starting to slip backward we may actually be backing up to get a running start. 

We Must Accept Full Responsibility For Our Lives
     Accepting full responsibility for all our actions, including our emotional and our behavioral responses to all life situations, is the definitive step toward human maturity.  However, the tendency to blame our responses on other persons or things is as old as the human race.  Many of us grew up as blamers.  We defended our most unacceptable behavior: “You had it coming.”  You did the same thing to me.” 

Your Needs First
     You could feel protective of others today, which could be the result of additional responsibilities you have. These responsibilities may be as a parent, caretaker, or confident of someone close to you. You might notice that this devotion to others makes you feel more mature and responsible. While it is important to accept your obligations, today you may want to make an effort to take some time out for yourself as well.

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