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Phone:
(530) 392-0714

Auburn Office
200 Tuttle Street
Auburn, Ca. 95603


Auburn Class
Auburn Grace Community Church
3126 Olympic Way
Auburn, Ca. 95603

Roseville Class
Call for class location



We are now accepting donations to help us stop family violence

Stage 1 Class:
Roseville: 
  Thursday 6p.m.
Auburn: 
  Monday 6p.m.
   
Stage 2/3 Class:
Roseville: 
  TBA
Auburn:
  Tuesdays 6:30p.m.
   
Seminar
  A Seminar for Women

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David Morton
Director & Facilitator
david@mavcenter.org

 


Mean mugging.
The Evil Eye.
The Big Stink.
The Silent Treatment.

They're all forms of emotional violence that hurt you and the ones you love.

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Now Viewing: Changing The Way We Relate

Changing The Way We Relate 
Making Over Our Partners

     A relationship, in the truest sense of the word, means relating to another. Usually when we say that we relate to someone, it is because we’ve found common ground. But part of relating is finding ways to make ideas that seem different come together. So often when we choose relationships, we try to fit another person into our predetermined ideal. When they don’t fit perfectly, we may try to make them over, creating our own vision from the raw material they’ve brought. But unless someone asks for guidance and direction, entering into a relationship with someone we want to change is dishonest. Then our relationship becomes with someone we’ve imagined, and anytime our partner steps outside of that imaginary projection, we will be disappointed. An honest relationship is one in which we accept each other as whole individuals, and find a way to share our life experiences together. Then, whenever we want, we can choose as a couple to give the relationship a makeover by renewing the way we interact.  
 
     By wanting to give another person a makeover, we are basically saying we don’t accept them for who they are. If we take a moment to imagine the roles reversed, we can get a sense of how it would feel if our beloved only committed to us because they thought we were, or would become, someone else entirely. In such an environment, we are not relating to each other from a real place, and we are keeping ourselves from being able to learn and grow from the different viewpoints that our partners offer.  
 
     If we feel that a change is needed in our relationship, the only makeover that we truly have the power to make is on ourselves. By accepting our partners for exactly who they are—the ideal and the not-so-ideal—we will create an energetic shift in our relationships, and we may find ourselves really appreciating our partners for the first time. Working from within, we determine how we relate to the people and the world around us, and when we can accept it and embrace it all, without conditions, we make every act of relating a positive one.

MAV Center
A re-education program to help men
with intimacy, communication skills and violence prevention.


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Richard Buschman
Facilitator
richard@mavcenter.org

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John
Facilitator
john@mavcenter.org

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Ronnie
Facilitator
ronnie@mavcenter.org

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Devon
Facilitator
devon@mavcenter.org

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