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Phone:
(530) 392-0714

Auburn Office
200 Tuttle Street
Auburn, Ca. 95603


Auburn Class
Auburn Grace Community Church

Room 203
3126 Olympic Way
Auburn, Ca. 95603

Roseville Class
Best Western Orchid Suites.
130 N. Sunrise Ave.
Roseville 95661.



We are now accepting donations to help us stop family violence

Stage 1 Class:
Roseville: 
  Wednesday 6p.m.
Auburn: 
  Thursday 6p.m.
   
Stage 2/3 Class:
Roseville: 
  TBA
Auburn:
  Tuesdays 6p.m.
   
Seminar
  A Seminar for Women

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David Morton
Director & Facilitator
david@mavcenter.org

 


Mean mugging.
The Evil Eye.
The Big Stink.
The Silent Treatment.

They're all forms of emotional violence that hurt you and the ones you love.

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Now Viewing: Remembering To Pause

Remembering To Pause
Healthy Response - Beyond Reacting

                    We have all had the experience of reacting in a way that was less than ideal upon hearing bad news, or being unfairly criticized, or being told something we did not want to hear. This makes sense because when our emotions are triggered, they tend to take center stage, inhibiting our ability to pause before we speak. We may feel compelled to release the tension by expressing ourselves in some way, whether it’s yelling back at the person yelling at us, or rushing to deliver words of comfort to a friend in trouble. However, there is much to be said for teaching ourselves to remember to pause and take a deep breath before we respond to the shocks and insults that can come our way in life.

     For one thing, our initial response is not always what’s best for us, or for the other people involved. Reacting to childish rage with childish rage will only escalate the negativity in a situation, further ensnaring us in an undesirable dynamic. Similarly, when we react defensively, or simply thoughtlessly, we often end up feeling regret over our words or actions. In the end, we save ourselves a lot of pain when we take a deep breath and really tune in to ourselves, and the other person, before we respond. This doesn’t necessarily mean we don’t say anything, although in some cases, that may be the best option.

     Some situations require a fairly immediate response, but even just a moment of grounding ourselves before we do so can help enormously. The next time you find yourself wanting to react, try to pause, and in that pause, take a deep breath. Feel your feet on the floor, the air on your skin, and listen for a response to arise within you, rather than just going with the first thing that pops into your head. You may find that in that moment, there is the potential to move beyond reaction and into the more subtle and creative realm of response, where something new can happen.

MAV Center
A re-education program to help men
with intimacy, communication skills and violence prevention.


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Richard Buschman
Facilitator
richard@mavcenter.org

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John
Facilitator
john@mavcenter.org

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Ronnie
Facilitator
ronnie@mavcenter.org

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Devon
Facilitator
devon@mavcenter.org

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